Time for a change
So...I've decided to move to a new blog. Not for any scary or negative reasons; it just felt like the right thing to do.
For those who want the nitty-gritty without reading all the particulars:
The new blog is and will always be open to all who'd like to continue to read my writing. I hope a good deal of you will want to.
To get the url for the new place, all you need to do is leave a request in the comments of this post (and be sure to include your email in the specified field above the comment box--it won't be published; only I'll see it). Or, alternately, you can email me a request for the link. My email can be found to the right, in the sidebar under the "about" section.
When you leave a comment or send an email, I will email you the link to the new place as soon as it's ready, which should be within a day or two.
I've had a marvelous time writing this blog, and I hope to have a doubly-marvelous time at the new one. I've been so grateful for and heartened by all my readers here, and I've been honored to have gotten the opportunity to know all of you. I hope you will continue to visit me at the new place.
Those are the basics. If you'd like to read more about the why's of the move, click the link below.
There are a few reasons I've decided to move.
#1: First and foremost, I've gotten sick of the incongruity of the name of this blog. I started this site thinking I'd stick to a sole theme and purpose: creating a discussion forum about sexuality. And the blog was that for a while, and did quite well, but then I started to get bored writing just about one topic. And I was going through a significant and difficult period of change, and I found I wanted to write about it. So the blog slowly evolved into something more personal. It's been a long time since the focus here was primarily about sex and as it gets more and more personal and less and less single-minded, this url name has felt increasingly like a trap to me, and increasingly misleading to anyone who might visit. I wish I'd chosen a more neutral name from the start, but I didn't, and I'm finding now I want to have a site that doesn't result in me feeling obligated to write about any particular topic just to keep up appearances.
#2: I'm sick of looking at my stats and not being able to see what my regular readers are checking out, because they're getting pushed off the grid by the massive number of daily Google searches on things like blow job tips. Did you know I'm currently Google's #2 search for that? Seriously. Between that and being #2 Google ranking for "sex tips for virgins," I pretty much can't see the rest of you readers through the storm of insecure fellatio givers and nervous first-timers. I'm not complaining; I'm very glad if my stuff is helping people out there...that was the point of why I started Sexeteria. But I'd just like to be able to see if anyone is enjoying anything else I'm writing.
#3: The thought of a fresh start is appealing to me. The years between when I started this blog and now have been some of the most intense and personally challenging in my life. It's been, as cliched as it sounds, a journey from darkness into light, and now that I'm feeling lighter, and feeling like a much different person than I was before, it feels like a new home would be appropriate to reflect this new leg of the journey. I'd also like to be a little more open about myself to reflect the new openness I'm feeling, and I've always felt hesitant to do that here, given the subject matter of this blog. On the other blog, I hope this will perhaps not be as great a concern of mine.
So those are my reasons.
I am exceptionally proud and fond of the writing I have done here at Sexeteria, both about sex and otherwise; I have absolutely no regrets about anything I wrote in this blog. It was a hard decision about whether or not to move because to some extent I really wanted to keep the record of my life's changes in one consistent arc. But ultimately, the idea of starting fresh just feels really good, it feels like what I want, and I want to go with that impulse.
A few more details about the change-over:
For the foreseeable future, I won't be deleting this blog. I love the writing I've done here, and I want to keep it up. I don't know if I will continue to add to this blog, but if I do, it will be on topics that are relevant to its original purpose--discussion of sexuality only. It's a topic I'm fond of, so it's possible I'll keep adding posts here from time to time. But I really can't say. We'll see how it goes. It's also possible I'll move some of the personal, non-sex posts to the other blog and delete them from here. I haven't decided. Again, we'll see how it goes. This also doesn't mean the other place will be a sex-free zone. The topic will probably come up, as it's a big part of life. But as it is in real life, it will not be my sole focus of discussion.
As to my preferences for how any of you who would like to link to the new place handle that: You are more than welcome to link to the new place! However, I'd ask that you just link to it as if it were a new blog. I'll be using a new name there, and from now on you can just use that name. For the time being, I'm not going to cross link between these two blogs. As I said, right now I'm looking for a fresh start.
Any other questions, please feel free to email me. Love to all and thanks for visiting me for all these years. Hope to see you soon at the new place.